Yet, it had been Dimitri’s gentleness and thoughtfulness mixed with that deadliness that made him so wonderful. The same hands that wielded stakes with such precision would carefully brush the hair out of my face. The eyes that could astutely spot any danger in the area would regard me wonderingly and worshipfully, like I was the most beautiful and amazing woman in the world.”
Anonymous: So Klaroline had abusive scenes (the lamp, he bit her), Klayley had abusive scenes (he choked her, terrorized her), Klamille had also abusive themes with Klaus compelling her so what makes Klaroline any better?
I am not watching TO so I can’t speak for the other two ships so I will refrain from doing that and I will speak for Klaroline solely vs another ship that would portray abusive themes but in a different way.
So we have Klaroline that had abusive scenes. Keep in mind that we are still speaking about TVD and about supernatural vampires so the morality here is not the same you would apply in everyday life since every ship in TVD one way or another is abusive. But putting that aside.
The reason I personally kept shipping Klaroline after the abusive scenes was simple. It was because inside the narrative they didn’t push it under the rag. Caroline kept her agency and didn’t cut any slack to Klaus. If anything she brought him down and danced on his ashes afterwards.
Klaus abused Caroline. What did we see next? We saw Caroline using his emotional turmoil and general insecurities in order to manipulate him. She held power over him. He could hurt her physically where she could control him psychologically and emotionally. He yielded the superficial power (which eventually Caroline managed to even take that away from him) and she yielded the substantial power. Klaus is 1000 years old, she is 18 years old. Klaus can abuse her body, she can abuse his mind. It is a power play that gives to Klaus the illusion of power where Caroline actually does own all the power just by being herself and not cutting him any slack.
And by saying that she is not cutting him any slack I am coming to the very main reason of what is important here.
Klaus abused Caroline. Yes. How did Caroline react? She used his manpain in order to manipulate him while at the same moment she didn’t try to sooth it. Inside the narrative it was from the first moment to the very last explained via words and actions that what Klaus did had NO EXCUSE whatsoever. It was wrong. It was abuse and it was not even understandable even with us knowing his inner state of grief and psychosis.
After that Caroline called him on that. Terrible people do terrible things. She didn’t try to connect with him through the abuse he inflicted to her. The only moment she did it was when she was trying to save her own life and even then she did not give in to him. She didn’t exchange her life by handing him forgiveness or by muting herself and acting as if what he did didn’t happen or didn’t have any gravity. In the aftermath he basically brushed him off and told him to fuck off. When the opportunity came she held the scissors and twisted them harder in the wound so to bring him to his knees (metaphorically and literally). She had him pleading for his life and not having herself agonizing after his pain and feeling sorry for him. He tried to turn it around and to point that he had saved her twice and she didn’t have any of that and pointed the true facts which were that he was responsible for her being in danger in the first place. Not only that but he had caused her pain and caused pain to the people she also loved.
Caroline got to know Klaus. She saw the humanity in him. She saw the worst in him. She saw the moments where he could be the man and the moments where he was the villain. In none of those times however did she try to look at him through rose colored glasses; and she was always painfully honest with him. She didn’t falter, she didn’t try to psychoanalyze his bullshit. She basically didn’t take his crap and she didn’t try to buy off his respect, admiration by caressing his ego and this is why in the end Klaus truly got to admire and respect her. She was an infatuation that never became one of his trophies and then she became true emotion because she was true to her beliefs which none of those included sugarcoating anything for Klaus. Because she was the only one that dared stand against him and point out that his actions had consequences and were not to be romanticized. She was not a prize and she was not going to avert her eyes and claim that he was the romantic persona of her fairytale. He hurt her and she would hurt him back. He hurt her and she would call him upon it. He hurt her and she made clear that this was not acceptable or something to be forgiven. Everything when it came to Caroline had to be earned. And not with false actions or shady words. But with honesty.
Now you can have that ship or you can have another ship with Klaus that basically goes that way.
Klaus, one, truth to be told, of the most misogynistic characters, hurts the woman and then woman goes around and goes: oh poor baby…what a painful childhood did you have…you are lashing out because you are hurting…you have a troubled soul…it is okay…I am here to be compassionate and understand you pain. What you feel is above all. Let me show you that you are already a better person that feels pain and I am here to sooth that pain and hug you and see your tears and be there for you no matter what. I will comfort you because you are above all. Me included. Choke me, compel me, manhandle me! I am here for you! I understand you soul. Now let us share some longing looks and let me make you some soup for your tortured soul. See? We deeply connect don’t we? Or…I had a bad childhood too so I understand you. It is okay. All are forgiven. Just because you are you and deep down you are a great guy. Or…look at you being all badass and saving me here and there…well that makes all the past go away. I mean you can abuse me but you are not allowing anyone else to do so isn’t that romantic?
Yeah sorry …that is not a ship for me. I do not know if this is the way they are handling Klayley or Klamille but I have seen metas and gifs and I had seen a lot from TVD to know that not every ship is handled the same way and the writers have tried to romanticize abuse in their flagships constantly.
The reason why people ship Klaroline so hard is not because it is an abusive ship but because Caroline kept her agency and stood against that abuse with all she’d got.
You know something is searched a lot when it warrants an autocomplete, so I’m thrilled for the Bamon fandom (even though I don’t ship Bamon myself) for getting their ship out there even though it’s one that the writers don’t really favour. :)
And seriously I did not…
"You’re my partner. We’re a team."
And Julie still continues to write about her like she is an amazing character but that’s 🐸☕️